How To Achieve Greater Balance In Life Today
So What About Balance
Balance in life. We all absolutely crave it. We have it at times, and then before we know it, it seems to have vanished leaving us in states of anxiety, worry, confusion, inaction and at its worst unhappy and unfulfilled.
So then let’s begin with “what is your true purpose?’ What actually fulfills you in your heart of hearts? These questions focus our attention on the big picture, the vision that we hold for ourselves in life.
We already know that living a life of balance means attending to work, relationships, health, intimacy, spiritual growth, flow activities and making a difference in the lives of others.
But it is how we weave these facets of life together that determines our sense of balance. And that my friend can be an elusive and slippery achievement.
It is inevitable that balance will not be sustained for an indefinite period of time.
Our time, attention, and energy are constantly adjusting and competing to meet the demands of everyday life.
We make choices from one moment to the next about how to conduct our lives. Knowing that we get to choose liberates us to do just that!
Balance Does Not Exist As a Constant
Balance is never a static or perfect state of being. When we expect perfection in our lives we set ourselves up for failure, which can undermine our ability to move forward. The process of finding balance sometimes feels great and other times, not so much. From a psychological perspective a healthy mind aims for the best and does not attach its self-worth to the outcome.
I love the word and the concept of “Praxis” as it originates from the Ancient Greek.
One way of explaining Praxis is that it is the process by which a theory, lesson, or skill is enacted, embodied, or realized. "Praxis" may also refer to the act of engaging, applying, exercising, realizing, or practicing ideas. This has been a recurrent topic in the field of philosophy, discussed in the writings of Plato, Aristotle, St. Augustine, Immanuel Kant, Søren Kierkegaard, Karl Marx, Martin Heidegger, Hannah Arendt, Paulo Freire, Ludwig von Mises, and many others.
I describe Praxis in the most simple of terms so that I always remember to apply its simple and yet very effective technology in my own life.
Praxis is for me: ‘Act, reflect, act.’
We succeed. We fail. We analyze and then we self-correct. It is all an opportunity for growth. We are works in progress, constantly adapting, adjusting, and attending to the competing demands of our lives while moving in the direction of our dreams and goals.
Cultivating rituals that strengthens resiliency, optimism and improves relationships, and our ability to manage the many facets of our lives is vital to our experience of balance and happiness.
Meditation, deep breathing, affirmations, visualization, improving communication skills and making a difference in the lives of others are some of the practices that alter the way the brain fires so that we feel more calm, clear, and connected.
When these practices become internalized, they become the backdrop against which we can create our best possible lives. In time roots take hold and penetrate every aspect of our life.
I Want Perfection and I Want it Now
Do yourself the biggest favor and justice that you ever will accomplish. Give yourself a pass on this idea that life is going to turn out the way you want it to. Where did that idea come from anyway? Well actually, probably from the “Id,” as defined by Freud, but that’s for another time.
Being a Type-A, Anal-Retentive borderline OCD personality myself, I feel your pain.
And, to be honest, my personality traits have served me (mostly) well for many years because I, probably like you, am highly driven and thrive off of multitasking and accomplishment.
That has caused me to build companies from scratch, earn more than respectable incomes, acquire the toys and experiences in life that we all love, and also compelled me to lend my talents to the world in over a dozen ongoing projects to make a profound and lasting difference in the lives of others.
But, that has also caused me to lose track of my personal life balance so many times.
And then, I must return to Praxis. Act. Reflect upon my actions. Do they serve me and my life commitments? Make the necessary adjustments toward balance once again. Accept and own 100% of all of my actions and their results. Clean up any messes I made in my affairs or relationships. Own them but don’t beat up on myself. Create new commitments that seem to serve my newfound reflections and knowledge as a critical thinker. Increase my level of self-trust that I am constantly working toward my greater good.
And then, act. And then repeat all of the above.
Act, reflect, act. It’s actually quite the effective fix to achieving greater life balance.
This is easy to do, easy not to do. So what will it be for you? I suppose that depends on how important balancing your life really is.
Mark Skovron became a leader in Corporate America where he held various positions in sales, sales management and training, and Senior Vice President for a subsidiary of a Fortune 500 Company.
Actively involved in personal training and developmental technologies for decades, Mark is one the world's leading authorities on success and personal achievement. Having taught hundreds of thousands of people, Mark is one of the most sought after speakers and mentors today.
Mark has been the founder of many very successful companies including Maximum Achievement Group, MaxGroup Business Solutions and is the Co-Author of best-selling books including, The Change (Ingram, March, 2015) and The Free Agent Revolution being released in the fall of 2015.